Question by Arliss
Any ideas on how to have spontaneous sex?
Okay, my wife’s always complained that sex is a bit routine (I would agree). For the first few years I thought it was because of me but I’ve recently discovered that she’s the one that puts a stop to spontanuity. To make matters worse, we’ve recently changed bedrooms and the new bedroom has 3 large windows all of which we both like to leave open to let the daylight in. This creates more of a problem because if I ever try anything, I know her response will be “We have to close the shades”…which wouldn’t be a problem except for the fact that it cools everything off and then we’re back to robotic and routine-like sex.
Any ideas on how to seduce my wife without having to worry about the shades? I dont’ want to close all the shades before she comes in because she’ll know what’s coming. I just want the sex to happen. I thought of rigging up remote control blinds (if anyone can give me tips on that, I’d appreciate it).
Thanks for your answers!!!
for something spontaneous try doing it in a different scenery such as a car or in a different room like the kitchen. it all depends i know it is hard if u have children so i dont know if this is the case. another thing, with the blinds. i would switch the blinds and buy some curtains that are a light color such as pink or yellow… that way u can leave them closed and still have enough light come in, that way you wouldnt have to worry about closing them. hope this helps some.
Just go for it, try the shower, the bath,the Kitchen table / floor where ever, if not try the outdoor approach. Final answer buy her a blind fold she won’t have to worry about the shades where ever you are – hope you have more luck than i have in 7yrs(just resign yourself to life).
Hey Arliss,
Doing the unexpected is a great way to keep passion alive in a longterm relationship. You could surprise your partner with a backrub or take care of an odious chore. In the bedroom being able to perform spontaneous sexual position may add a little spice to keep the nights warm.
Here are some tips on how to have spontaneous sex:
Step 1:
Get a manual of sexual positions. Find one that has detailed illustrations along with concise and relevant descriptions of the acts.
Step 2:
Set the mood with some cuddling and quality time. It’s easier to be spontaneous when you’re feeling romantic.
Step 3:
Page through the book of sexual positions together. Talk to each other about what makes certain positions enticing.
Step 4:
Get naked and begin arousing each other with light touches and kisses.
Step 5:
Find a sexual position that you’ve never done before. Tell your partner how much you would like to have intercourse in that way.
Step 6:
Throw the book of sexual positions aside and fall on one another with lustful glee. Engage in spontaneous sex.
Hope this helps,
Jessica